The Shocking Relief
It was a certain kind of shock. A definite re-calibration occurred. Repeatedly. And, sometimes it still does. No one had to tell me explicitly as a young woman. I knew it implicitly. My body should look like THIS, and not…
The Cycle of Shame
I listened empathetically as she described the way the morning “should have gone.” Those were the plans she’d made. Quite thorough she was in sequencing what was supposed to happen. Including the good feelings that should have come from those…
Instead of Good Food versus Bad Food, Try First Do Less Harm, Then Do More Good
In our latest Hunger, Hope + Healing newsletter, I introduced a new offering for us at our Portland home, the DAYA Foundation. That offering is the Restart Program led lovingly by Courtney Cronk. In response to this newsletter, I was honored…
We Can’t Do It Alone
Since our last discussion about shame as a force of isolation (an early protective mechanism), I’ve had the blessing of intersecting with new areas of community in the yoga world and to engage with other yoga visionaries, activists, entrepreneurs, as…
When Shame Takes Hold
Thank you to those who wrote in response to our conversation about Shame. Shame is a horrible, sticky, overwhelming, toxic, and shocking rush of physiological, psychological, neurological, and emotional storms. In the midst of this storm, our shame voice shouts…
A Break in the (Shame) Storm
In case you’re dropping into our conversation without having read the prior blogs, I want to underline a certain aspect of shame today, specifically, one of the ironic ways it acts as a “protective mechanism”: Shame is isolating. Shame isolates us.…
Understanding Your Shame Monster
The Shame Furies As the flu goes on, I am reminded that this horrible feeling with my skin aching from fevers is actually healing in action. This is very different than the feeling I had many times in relationship to…